“SHE SURVIVED” it all.


I have not addressed this issue in a long time, but felt compelled to share with you food for thought.

There is a woman who doesn’t really know what functional really is, pertaining to marriage.   A woman who has not really had a home to compare anything to, so she accepts whatever life throws her way…Complacent.  Abuse becomes part of her daily life, not believing it gets any better, or that she deserves any better.

One day she is going on with her daily routine of being a housewife and her husband, who is usually drinking….Snaps.  There is no apparent reason for it, but it just happens. Police come and he spends the night in jail, only to come home apologizing for what he had done, or pretends nothing ever happened the night before. The day after, varies, depending on his mood.

Finally one day she has enough and has the courage to leave him and begin a new life and things SEEM to be changing for the better.  She’s living with her best friend, dates occasionally and believes in herself again….If she ever did!

The night before her 40th birthday, she decides to drive to a town at the base of the mountain where she lived.  Her friend pleads for her not to go, because the roads may have ice on them and it had started to snow…but she was use to driving in that kind of weather.  On a narrow lonely road she had driven hundreds of times in all seasons, her car begins to swerve on the road.  She wished she had listened to her friend, for it was quickly becoming very nasty weather.  She pulls her car over thinking it doesn’t sound right, so she gets out of the car to check under the hood, keeping the car running and the headlights on.

Now keep in mind, the mountains had been her home for quite a long time, so she felt confident that someone she knew would drive by and see her.  While looking under the hood of her car, out of no-where, a man appears, asking if he can assist.  There seemed to be no car around;  Maybe he was a local farmer checking on his cattle, or mending a fence, that was common;  Nothing out of the ordinary.   A glance at the man, then continuing looking under her hood while she babbled on what she thought could be wrong.

She could hear herself screaming and struggling with the man, as though she was watching a horror movie; Outside herself, watching from a distance. They slid down the bank on the backside of the car, so no one from the road could see them.  Her head was pounding, she was in pain, he was angry and her screaming only made him more determined to proceed.   At that moment, she began to pray out load, in spite of what was being done to her, believing praying out loud would distract him.  Whether or not it did, she wasn’t to know until much later, because she was drifting in and out of consciousness. The snow and ice was coming down full force and she was coming in and out of consciousness, gradually crawling to the headlights of the car.

Now at this point, you would think someone would stop right away, but they didn’t, because it appeared seeing her bloody nude body in the furry of the storm, it was a dead deer, someone had hit, so…NO ONE stopped…Not for 2 hours.   Eventually someone DID stop.

I’ll not continue the details, but to tell you this……

A few years later, this same woman was taking self-defense, a strong supporter of the fight against domestic violence, a journalist for a local newspaper, on an exclusive article about her story, which reached large cities across the state.  Local Sheriffs departments were offering self-defense tips to women in seminars, cell phones became more common;  Way before this age of technology.  Through all this, her greatest accomplishment was to write in an article;   That enraged the men in the county, because domestic violence was brushed under the table there,   Everyone was related to someone, so no-one spoke out.

Her words were:

We as a Country expect our men to protect our country and to protect us from intruders in our homes.  Who protects us from the danger within our homes?  Who?  How does society expect a battered woman to successfully raise her children  to be responsible citizens, when they are surrounded by these horrific acts?  How do we teach our sons and daughters, this is not acceptable, or build their self-esteem, when we have none?  Only when We as a whole PEOPLE, can we stop the viscous chain of events coming full circle.

As a woman, a fighter, a mother………..”SHE SURVIVED” it all.


38 thoughts on ““SHE SURVIVED” it all.

      • Sure. Please give them my blog as I know that God wants me to give hope as we speak about abuse. I felt hopeless as well at one point…then God came into my life and restored me. He rescued me and what He did for me, He can and will do for others. Check out “Rescued! When I did not even know I needed it!” http://secretangelps911.wordpress.com/2013/05/13/rescued-when-i-did-not-even-know-that-i-needed-it/ …. I was broken but now I have overcome through the grace of God. I want all victims to know that He is there for them too.. God bless you!!

      • Oh my God, Barbara. I am so sorry that this happened to you! I will be praying for you and your friend. The 2 main prayers that I prayed were The Lord’s Prayer for it says “deliver us from evil” and Psalm 91 for its protection…”though a 1000 fall at my side and 10,000 at my right hand, no evil will come near me”. I declare these prayers over your friend and victims all over that the God will protect them and set them free. An army is rising and I join you my sister in this battle to fight against abuse and the evil that attacks all victims… May God pour His blessings on you and your friend… in Jesus’ name…Amen.

      • I am fine and all is well with me, it is my friend back home that needs your prayers. My life is full of blessings and happiness now, but I remain involved in the drive for public awareness.

      • Amen.. Please pass those messages onto your friend. I will be praying for her and all other victims as I join you in this mission in exposing abuse.. Many blessings to you my friend…

      • Thank you so much. I appreciate your support. I posted to reach out in response to a couple of emails back home. I wanted to have it posted through the day so maybe, just maybe, the right people would see it. “She Survived” is my story. People back home are much aware of my journaling and support with safe houses in the surrounding area, so I had hoped she would see this or they would and respond to her aid. God Bless.

        My life is full of blessings and a good life with a loving husband, so it is important that women know they can recover.

      • Thank you Pastor Lamb. I really appreciate your support as God raises up this army to fight for His children who are too broken to fight for themselves.. Many blessings to you!!

  1. Reblogged this on Truth- A Right to Fight For… and commented:
    A topic I am very, very passionate and aware of… Saving ourselves from big brother is vital; but helping and saving others who need help is just as vital; if not more. Education is needed… No one should ever, ever have to endure any form of abuse…

    Soon I will have a “sister page” up for domestic abuse and things of the like… Until then,…

    • I am glad it would help. “She Survived” is my story and someone back home is in trouble. I hope my followers will keep it going today, so maybe, just maybe, they’ll go seek help. God Bless.

      • Sending you so many hugs… You sound like me… The person dearest to me is having issues here, too, and it’s causing me to not be able to blog as I want.

        It holds such a heavy weight at times, doesn’t it? Even when I have free time, it seems so … heavy.
        But my real point was, I worry about people I try to help via my blog as well because at the moment I can’t be here nor strong for myself or another…

        If you helped me just by coming up in my feed, I am sure your followers will continue to be inspired by you… and you’ve gained a new one in me! 🙂

        Be blessed ❤

      • Thanks Dearest, Glad I could help and wish I could do more. I’ll keep you in my prayers. Keep your chin up and your Faith strong. God Bless, Barb

    • Thank you Kinberly. I appreciate the response. I am aiming to reach out to my fellow followers and friends back home, for someone there is in need of help. I am trying to keep it up throughout today by having posted on other sites, hoping the right people will see it. I am well known there for, “SHE SURVVIVED it all” is my story.

  2. I reblogged your story as it is very close to home. The details may be different but the song remains the same. ABUSE, and how we survived. Please feel free to read my blogs as well and see what a friend is busy going through. (She wears my ring Forever)

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  4. What a horrific story, but I am so happy for her that she was able to survive and have a new life. Bless her for her courage to speak out against domestic violence.

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